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UK Coaching-Matchmaking Group For Gay Men
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Lock in low pricing. Introductory price of $47 goes up to $97 if you join after June 3, 2023.
First meeting is on the 3rd of June @ 4 PM London Time.
All meetings are via Zoom.
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$47 /m
Coaching & Matchmaking
Monthly
This is an introductory pricing until June 3, 2023, after which the price goes up to $97 per month.
What you get
What is included
Group coaching 2 x month on Sat at 4 PM London time.
Each group coaching call is 90 minutes.
Meetings happen on the 1st and 3rd Saturday each month.
You get introductions to the men you see in the group.
Time & date
Dates For Meetings For 2023:
June 3, 2023
June 17, 2023
July 1, 2023
July 15, 2023
August 5, 2023
August 19, 2023
September 2, 2023
September 16, 2023
October 7, 2023
October 21, 2023
November 4, 2023
November 18, 2023
December 2, 2023
December 16, 2023
HOW YOU MEET
How Introductions Work
During our group coaching calls you will have a chance to request an introduction to anyone in the group. You can request 1 introduction per month.
This group is focused on gay men living in the U.K. If you live in the E.U, you are welcome to join us.
Once the introduction happens, you commit to three phone calls before you meet in person.
You will get topics for each phone call so that you avoid mistakes and instead you connect in a wholesome and loving way.
You need to participate in at least 2 calls to request an introduction.
Common Questions:
How does this work?
You get a combination of coaching and introductions in one place. You get access to monthly group coaching sessions during which you share about yourself and watch other men share their stories. If you want to meet someone from the group, you request the introduction and we facilitate the next steps.
How many introductions per month?
After attending three meetings you can request introductions to the men you see in the group. You get one introduction per month.
What kind of coaching is provided?
You get professional coaching about dating, sexuality and relationships.
What are the requirements to join?
The only requirement is that you are a gay man 18+ interested in learning and meeting other gay men for friendships and relationships. Closeted and bisexual men are also welcomed. If you are married to a woman and want to join us, you are welcomed. Introductions for romantic relationships are reserved for gay men who are out. Introductions for friendships/support are for men who are bisexual, closeted.
How do I meet and date the guys from the group?
During the group coaching calls you can request an introduction and if the other person is available - you agree to have three phone calls before meeting in person. This way, a foundation of friendship is created and the possibility for an authentic relationship goes up.
How much does it cost?
$47 per month if you join before Jun 3, 2023. If you join after, the price goes up to $97 per month.
What is the return policy?
You can cancel at any time. Once the payment goes through, there are no refunds. You can attend 2 meetings a month or 1 meeting a month and the price is the same.
Who is the coach?
Your coach is Paul Angelo MHA, MBA. He has been coaching gay men for over a decade and is the founder of the Big Gay Family Social Program. Paul is the author of 5 training courses about gay relationships, dating and sexuality and offers practical insights into gay relationships. He brings to the table relationship experience lasting over 21 years.
Benefits Of Participation:
Relate and connect with others: When you're a single gay man, it can be challenging to connect with others and feel a sense of belonging. A group coaching program provides a supportive environment where you can relate to others who share similar experiences and build lasting connections.
Gain a fresh perspective: Sometimes when we're struggling, it can be hard to see past our own problems. In a supportive group coaching environment, hearing from others can open up new viewpoints and provide insight into resolving personal struggles.
Discover solutions to personal problems: By engaging with a diverse group of peers, you'll be introduced to new solutions and strategies for dealing with interpersonal and life challenges.
Empathize and learn from others: Learning from others' successes and struggles allows you to develop empathy and a sense of connectedness, also providing strategies to tackle similar issues.
Develop deeper interpersonal skills: Enhancing communication and conflict resolution skills is essential for healthy relationships and lifelong growth; the group coaching format provides opportunities for interpersonal skill development.
Experience accountability and motivation: Group coaching fosters a culture of accountability, providing a drive to keep pushing forward both for yourself and that of peers.
Witness transformational experiences: Seeing personal transformations firsthand from others in the group also provides inspiration in your personal journey.
Step out of comfort zones: In a supportive group, being vulnerable is more accessible, this can lead to more significant change and growth in one's life.
Get customized solutions: By engaging with a group of diverse individuals, the coaching program provides customized perspectives based on shared situations leading to personal breakthroughs.
Create a healthy, authentic life: Growing alongside others in the group coaching environment strengthens your ability to navigate issues and relationships, the skills and perspectives you'll develop, contributing to a healthy and authentic life.
When compared to traditional individual coaching, group coaching harnesses the power of social dynamics to provide transformational experiences that inspire, motivate, and reinforce self-awareness. Being part of a group and acknowledging shared experiences can drive meaningful personal development, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling, rewarding life.
Group Participation Policy:
Respect: Be respectful to all members of the group, even if you disagree with them. Avoid using derogatory language or engaging in bullying behavior.
Example: Refrain from using homophobic slurs, or making derogatory comments about someone's appearance or lifestyle.
Example: Refrain from using homophobic slurs, or making derogatory comments about someone's appearance or lifestyle.
Active Listening: Actively listen to others in the group without interrupting or over-talking. This creates an environment where opinions and feedback can be shared freely.
Example: Instead of tuning out or interrupting when someone is speaking, really focus on what they are saying, and respond thoughtfully when it's your turn to speak.
Example: Instead of tuning out or interrupting when someone is speaking, really focus on what they are saying, and respond thoughtfully when it's your turn to speak.
Personal responsibility: Take responsibility for your own actions and avoid blaming others for problems or issues. This includes being accountable for your own happiness and wellbeing.
Example: Rather than blaming someone else for your problems, identify what actions you can take to improve the situation. If you're feeling overwhelmed or stressed, take a break or reach out for support.
Example: Rather than blaming someone else for your problems, identify what actions you can take to improve the situation. If you're feeling overwhelmed or stressed, take a break or reach out for support.
Confidentiality: Keep the privacy of group members confidential. This creates a safe and secure environment where people can share their experiences and feelings freely.
Example: Avoid sharing group member's personal information with others outside the group or discussing their experiences with others without their permission.
Example: Avoid sharing group member's personal information with others outside the group or discussing their experiences with others without their permission.
Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness and avoid reacting impulsively. This creates a space where individuals can be thoughtful and intentional in their interactions with others.
Example: Take a moment to check in with yourself before reacting to something that triggers an intense emotional response. Breathe and calm yourself, then respond in a thoughtful way.
Example: Take a moment to check in with yourself before reacting to something that triggers an intense emotional response. Breathe and calm yourself, then respond in a thoughtful way.
Constructive Feedback: Offer feedback in a constructive and respectful manner, while also being open to receiving feedback from others. This creates constructive and helpful exchanges in the group.
Example: If you disagree with someone's opinion, ask respectful questions that seek understanding rather than judge them. Similarly, if you receive feedback from others, listen thoughtfully and engage in a constructive dialogue about the issue.
Example: If you disagree with someone's opinion, ask respectful questions that seek understanding rather than judge them. Similarly, if you receive feedback from others, listen thoughtfully and engage in a constructive dialogue about the issue.
Boundaries: Respect the personal boundaries of others, and set your own boundaries when necessary. This ensures that everyone feels safe and respected in the group.
Example: Respect someone's decision to not share certain aspects of their life in the group or not to socialize outside the group. Similarly, communicate your own boundaries clearly to other group members.
Example: Respect someone's decision to not share certain aspects of their life in the group or not to socialize outside the group. Similarly, communicate your own boundaries clearly to other group members.
Inclusivity: Create an inclusive environment for people of all races, ages, and abilities. This ensures that everyone feels welcome and respected in the group.
Example: Be aware of your own biases and be open to learning and understanding more about people who have different experiences than your own. Use inclusive language and avoid making assumptions about others.
Example: Be aware of your own biases and be open to learning and understanding more about people who have different experiences than your own. Use inclusive language and avoid making assumptions about others.
Non-judgment: Avoid making judgments about others or their choices. Instead, foster an environment of compassion and understanding.
Example: Rather than judging someone's dating habits or sexuality, engage in a constructive dialogue around their experiences and feelings. Be open to learning and seeking to understand.
Example: Rather than judging someone's dating habits or sexuality, engage in a constructive dialogue around their experiences and feelings. Be open to learning and seeking to understand.
Growth mindset: Approach the group with a growth mindset, willing to learn and grow from the experiences of yourself and others. This creates a space where individuals can challenge themselves and grow in their dating and relationship skills.
Example: Be open to new ideas and insights, and be willing to challenge your own assumptions and beliefs. Look for opportunities to learn and grow from others in the group.
Example: Be open to new ideas and insights, and be willing to challenge your own assumptions and beliefs. Look for opportunities to learn and grow from others in the group.
Examples Of Topics Covered:
Understanding and Coping with Shame
What messages about being gay did you receive growing up? How have those messages impacted you? Have you ever experienced homophobia or discrimination? How did that make you feel and how did you cope with it?
What messages about being gay did you receive growing up? How have those messages impacted you? Have you ever experienced homophobia or discrimination? How did that make you feel and how did you cope with it?
Building Strong Self-Esteem
How do you define yourself besides your sexual orientation? What makes you unique and valuable as a person? What self-care strategies work well for you, and what are some new ones you want to try?
How do you define yourself besides your sexual orientation? What makes you unique and valuable as a person? What self-care strategies work well for you, and what are some new ones you want to try?
Navigating Emotions
What's your go-to strategy when life is emotionally overwhelming? What are some other strategies you can try to label your emotions and better express them? How can someone differentiate healthy stress vs. unhealthy stress and find solutions to manage them?
What's your go-to strategy when life is emotionally overwhelming? What are some other strategies you can try to label your emotions and better express them? How can someone differentiate healthy stress vs. unhealthy stress and find solutions to manage them?
Developing Healthy Boundaries
What are some of your limits in relationships and dating? Are there areas you feel you need to set stronger boundaries? How do you communicate your boundaries to potential partners or friends in an effective way that ensures they are respected?
What are some of your limits in relationships and dating? Are there areas you feel you need to set stronger boundaries? How do you communicate your boundaries to potential partners or friends in an effective way that ensures they are respected?
Building Healthy Romantic Relationships
What are some of the most important pieces of advice you've received related to building strong relationships? How can you hold yourself accountable to build a relationship that is respectful and non-toxic?
What are some of the most important pieces of advice you've received related to building strong relationships? How can you hold yourself accountable to build a relationship that is respectful and non-toxic?
Understanding Sexuality
How do you identify yourself, and what has your journey of self-identification been like? How do you feel about your body during and after sexual encounters? What are some positive self-talk strategies?
How do you identify yourself, and what has your journey of self-identification been like? How do you feel about your body during and after sexual encounters? What are some positive self-talk strategies?
Forming Friendships and Building Community
How do you prefer to make new friends? What are some strategies that have worked in the past? What social activities would you like to explore around other gay men? How can you use experiences to connect and support each other?
How do you prefer to make new friends? What are some strategies that have worked in the past? What social activities would you like to explore around other gay men? How can you use experiences to connect and support each other?
Overcoming Trauma
What trauma have you faced in the past, and how has it affected your life and relationships? How can you identify unhealthy patterns in relationships, which might be caused by past trauma?
What trauma have you faced in the past, and how has it affected your life and relationships? How can you identify unhealthy patterns in relationships, which might be caused by past trauma?
Managing Insecurity
What are some of the biggest areas where you feel insecure about yourself? Are these insecurities holding you back in life? How might you create an actionable plan that directly addresses your insecurities to help overcome them?
What are some of the biggest areas where you feel insecure about yourself? Are these insecurities holding you back in life? How might you create an actionable plan that directly addresses your insecurities to help overcome them?
Building Better Communication Skills
How would you rate your communication skills in general? Where do you excel and where do you struggle? What are some non-verbal communication techniques you find helpful in difficult or high-stress conversations?
How would you rate your communication skills in general? Where do you excel and where do you struggle? What are some non-verbal communication techniques you find helpful in difficult or high-stress conversations?
Strategies for Overcoming Loneliness
What are some of the causes of loneliness in the gay community? What are some strategies for building a support system that helps combat loneliness?
What are some of the causes of loneliness in the gay community? What are some strategies for building a support system that helps combat loneliness?
Creating A Supportive Life Environment
What environmental factors negatively impact your wellbeing? How you can we alter those factors to support positive mental health? What environmental factors positively impact your wellbeing?
What environmental factors negatively impact your wellbeing? How you can we alter those factors to support positive mental health? What environmental factors positively impact your wellbeing?
Understanding and Overcoming Narcissism
Can you identify someone who may exhibit narcisstic traits? How do you recognize these traits in yourself and counteract the impact of harmful, self-centered behaviors?
Can you identify someone who may exhibit narcisstic traits? How do you recognize these traits in yourself and counteract the impact of harmful, self-centered behaviors?
Coping with Abandonment Trauma
What triggers you emotionally related to abandonment, and how can you create a plan to counteract past trauma's potential impact? What strategies do you currently have for dealing with emotional attachment and abandonment issues?
What triggers you emotionally related to abandonment, and how can you create a plan to counteract past trauma's potential impact? What strategies do you currently have for dealing with emotional attachment and abandonment issues?
Strategies for Successful Dating
What are your current habits when you are on dating apps or when you pursue potential partners? How about in person? What specific relationship traits would help you be most fulfilled, and how can you communicate those openly and honestly to potential partners?
What are your current habits when you are on dating apps or when you pursue potential partners? How about in person? What specific relationship traits would help you be most fulfilled, and how can you communicate those openly and honestly to potential partners?
Techniques for Empathy and Compassion
What are some of the benefits of employing empathy and compassion in your daily interactions? What negative experiences have you had, where the presence of a greater degree of empathy and compassion could have changed the outcome?
What are some of the benefits of employing empathy and compassion in your daily interactions? What negative experiences have you had, where the presence of a greater degree of empathy and compassion could have changed the outcome?
Understanding Different Relationship Structures
How well-versed are you with different relationship structures? Can you identify the factors that would make non-monogamous relationships successful, and how to communicate those needs to potential partners?
How well-versed are you with different relationship structures? Can you identify the factors that would make non-monogamous relationships successful, and how to communicate those needs to potential partners?
Building Resilience
What specific past setbacks have you faced that required you to draw upon a deep level of resilience? What strategies do you consider helpful when dealing with setbacks or feeling like giving up?
What specific past setbacks have you faced that required you to draw upon a deep level of resilience? What strategies do you consider helpful when dealing with setbacks or feeling like giving up?
Parenting and Family Building as a Gay Man
What resources have you explored related to family building and parenting? What kind of a relationship do you want to have with your future family members, and how can you start building that now?
What resources have you explored related to family building and parenting? What kind of a relationship do you want to have with your future family members, and how can you start building that now?
Understanding consent and boundaries in sexual scenarios
Have you ever encountered a situation where you were uncomfortable with the progression of sexual activities with a partner? How did you handle it? What are some steps that can be taken to facilitate open communication regarding sexual boundaries between partners?
Have you ever encountered a situation where you were uncomfortable with the progression of sexual activities with a partner? How did you handle it? What are some steps that can be taken to facilitate open communication regarding sexual boundaries between partners?