[text_block style=”style_1.png” align=”left” font_size=”19″ font_style=”normal” font_color=”%23000000″ top_padding=”20″ bottom_padding=”30″ left_padding=”0″ right_padding=”0″ bottom_margin=”0″ line_height=”28″]I’d like to share a bit of my story with you.
Before I became a relationship coach, I was a young and a naive man looking for love in the wrong places and hoping that someday a man would sweep me off my feet and that I would get married.
Instead, I was dealt a series of events that tested my abilities of survival, strength and resilience. It was a difficult journey, but with a good ending.
Two events in my 30’s changed my life. The first one was a personal bankruptcy at 31 that came after years of difficult relationships and emotional struggles in my 20’s.
Before the bankruptcy, it never crossed my mind that bad relationships can have such a negative effect on my finances. For some reason I was blind to see the connection between messy relationships and a messy state of mind.
But the bankruptcy was not painful enough for me to change. I was too young to feel the urgency to change – I thought that I would somehow figure things out – that my career would improve, and I would find the “right” partner.
So life continued as usual and nothing changed. I was in a codependent relationship with a man I didn’t love, living from moment to moment, struggling to make ends meet and pretending everything was fine.
A few years passed and at 33 another surprise happened. One day during an evening walk, I was assaulted at gun point. Everything changed…
I will never forget the sensation of the possibility of death – as I tried running away knowing they had a gun and at any time could shoot me. Sometimes I still think about it.
The accident taught me to cherish every day, every opportunity and every person who comes into my life. And when I make mistakes, I go back to the accident and remind myself about how short and precious life is.
But the real awakening came in the months after the accident – during moments of self-reflection as I was healing from the attack.
I saw the neglect and the avoidance that lasted over a decade. I saw that 10 years of my life were lost… and for the first time I felt the need for a radical change.
So I woke up from being a “drifter” and stopped pretending that my life was okay. I saw that I was playing games with money, sex and relationships and that I didn’t take my life seriously. It was a big shock for me to see that nobody cared to point it out to me – that none of my boyfriends or friends cared to tell me that I was lost all those years.
That is when I decided to end all dysfunctional habits, to step out of denial and to see the stories that kept me from making progress. I ended my relationship, ended all friendships with men who were drifters and I embarked on a personal development journey – studying psychology, business, health and relationships. This is how I became a coach.
And I keep changing and learning every day.
After a few years of learning, I launched a coaching business, met the love of my life and rebuilt my career. 2017/2018/2019 were the most magical period of my life, spending lots of time with Frank in the mountains and going deep into the space of romantic love. Marriage and life-long commitment are on the horizon and I have never felt more ready.
You too can succeed in relationships, meet your future husband and get married. And you don’t need to wait for an accident or a major crisis to reveal the need for authentic relationships and stability.
You just need to take an honest look at your life and realize the impact that relationships have on your success and not be afraid to take corrective action.
This is why I am inviting you to make the decision to make relationships your #1 priority and to go on a journey of self-discovery and growth.
Everything that I have learned over the past 10 years about gay relationships has gone into the design of the Big Gay Family Social Program to help every member make his relationship dreams come true.
I hope to see you there,
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