Big Gay Family

Commitment Based
Gay Social Program

6 Stages - The Structure For All Long-Term, Committed, Gay Relationships

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How Dating Works Inside Big Gay Family:

Big Gay Family started in 2010 in Miami as a matchmaking service and since then evolved into a Social Program that gives you everything you need to meet men, create strong connections with them, and develop long-term relationships.


You get monthly introductions, coaching and a spiritual social container so that you create the best relationships of your life.


By joining Big Gay Family you are accomplishing a social transformation in 1 year that would take 20 years to happen without the Program.

Buddhist Philosophy

Inside Big Gay Family, you learn how to meditate and how to still the mind so that you can be relaxed as you are meeting and connecting with our members.

The 3 Key Buddhist principles:

Acceptance of others.   When you accept other gay men as they are and remove judgments, you are able to see gay men for who they really are on the inside and connect with them easily.  Often you will be able to see that they are hurt and that they are afraid of lots of things.  Seeing their fear and struggles allows you to come to terms with your fear and struggle.
Surrender quiets down the Ego so that you can witness your emotions and develop a deeper sense of personal intimacy with yourself and others.  In moments when you want it "your way", you take a step back and you surrender.  You do a short meditation and you allow your emotions to calm down.  Surrender is a mental exercise just as it is a spiritual exercise.
Compassion promotes healing and restoration.  By listening compassionately, you offer understanding and acceptance, instead of judgment and scorn.

Buddhism inside Big Gay Family:

When sharing photos we ask that members wait at least 30 days to share photos from the moment of first contact.  Surrendering sexual habits and letting go of sexual conditioning is important to the exploration of love and intimacy.
In moments when you want it "your way", you take a step back and you surrender.  You do a short meditation and you allow your emotions to calm down.  Surrender allows you to see the patterns of control and the emotions that are behind the desires to be in control.
Every coaching session starts with a 20-minute meditation where you learn how to accept yourself, others, and the world just as it is. This practice can lead to a major transformation of attitude towards relationships and life.

From Paul Angelo:

Thank you for visiting Big Gay Family.  

Your involvement in the Program matters.  With each Introduction, you are co-creating a new Social Experience where gay men come together in a creative and futuristic way.

With Principles & Structure, we bring order to dating and relationships so that everyone succeeds. 

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Paul Angelo

Frequently Asked Questions

What is Big Gay Family Social Program?

Big Gay Family (BGF) is a gay Social Program for gay men seeking friendships and relationships in a healthy and productive social space.   You get monthly introductions, step-by-step guidance for how to connect to our members, and protection from toxic situations that create hurt and disappointment. 

Instead of meeting strangers and having random interactions, you get a step-by-step process that creates movement of intimacy so that you feel closeness and intimacy.

What is different about Big Gay Family?

Compared with other social environments (apps, dating sites, social events), at Big Gay Family, we do not tolerate profanity or vulgarity.  Our Guiding Principles ensure that everyone you meet inside Big Gay Family offers a pleasant and respectful experience of sharing and bonding.

Big Gay Family gives you the structure that protects you from toxic situations so that you can be vulnerable and open with other men.  Instead of a random approach, inside Big Gay Family you get access to Social Pathways that have been carefully put together to help you create relationships from start to finish.  

Why are relationships difficult today?

The world has changed radically over the past 10 years. Hookup apps have replaced long-held social norms and are accelerating the Trauma-Cycle

Today, gay men experience 100's of negative social cues every month including shaming, rejection, objectification, devaluation, disrespect, and ambivalence.  

Every hurt is acted out unconsciously as a method for self-awareness and as a process of healing. This is how everyone ends up hurting everyone else even though the initial intention is to love and to date.  

This Trauma Cycle is why relationships today are so difficult. No matter who you meet and how much you initially like each other, it's just a matter of one situation that creates a walk-away or loss of interest. 

Big Gay Family

COmmitment based
gay Social Program